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Introspection and other fun

So Peter and I have been married for approximately six weeks. Six weeks really isn't that long, but I would say that it's going well ;).

Neither of us felt very different. Some might attribute this to us living together for about 8 months before the wedding, but I don't think that's the case. We were already so deeply committed to each other, that the whole "til death do us part" thing doesn't freak me out at all. I already knew I wasn't leaving him til then, [insert whatever mushiness you want here.] However, here is a little list of things that have and have not changed in my life since we got married.

Things that have changed:

  • Our bank account. For the first time since graduation, we are able to pay our bills on time, which has nothing to do with the wedding. I was laid off in January, and work has been pretty sporatic for me. Since we came back from the honeymoon, I have worked for four straight weeks, which means that there are no lags in paychecks, and four weeks of straight work has given us a dependable income, thankfully. Now we're putting together a plan to pay off our credit cards, and I can't wait. We have a kitchen from the 1970's to redo 😉
  • The label. It's still weird calling Pete my husband, but it's feeling a little more natural. For some reason fiance was a really natural transition for me, because I liked that it gave me some power (ie…having people take me seriously when calling about X bill or whatever).

  • My name. That has been the hardest thing. I am officially a Keegan for all intents and purposes. I planned to write about that. I changed my name on Facebook, Myspace, and Geni pretty quickly, so I would get used to seeing it in writing. The new drivers license was a little tough, and I have to go get pictures to change my passport. I did cry a little, but luckily Pete is super understanding and doesn't take the fact that I was a little upset the wrong way. I do want his name, but it's hard to let go of the one you were born with.

  • The amount of stuff we have. We got a ton of awesome gifts from the wedding! Our family and friends are super generous. The townhouse is not big enough haha. So we're also in the process of creating some storage solutions and purging everything. I am cluttery with "stuff," but not with information. So all of this "stuff" has been hard for me to deal with.

  • We have termites. The beautiful bed set my parents so graciously gave us from when they were first married (which they received from my grandparents, who bought it when they were first married) came with termites. This puts all of my clothes on the floor in the office while we figure out what to do. This also means that I am supposed to be going through all those clothes. I might need to take Kristin up on her offer to help me come organize.

  • The amount of time I have. The wedding stole a year of my life. It really did. I loved (most) of the planning, but it wasn't until after the wedding that I found out how much time it took up. I am finally able to hang out with my friends and not be stressed out. I can't believe how not stressed I am. There are no worries about what crafty stuff I should be home doing instead of being out.

Things that have not changed:

  • Me. I don't think that being a wife is going to change me that much. I am not in the stereotypical wife role (at home with the kids, cleaning all the time), even though in a way I've tried to place all the household responsibilites on myself. Luckily Pete is great about helping around the house and making sure I know its both of our responsibilties (with the exception of the mound of clothes that is sitting here in the office with me, and even that he washed for me to get all the termite wings off everything. Gross.). He is the one that cooks, I do the laundry. It will be interesting to see how kids fit into the mix someday. I always thought that I would be able to stay home, but if we had a kid tomorrow, that would not be the case. I'm hoping that we will get to a point where we can save all of one of our salaries, and make that a possibility, at least for the first year of the kid's life. Of course…hopefully that will be five years from now.
  • Pete and I's relationship. Like I said before, we were super committed. If it has changed, it's only been in a good way. I think we'll still be sickeningly cute with each other when we're 90. 😉

I am on IT lockdown at work, so it really hampers the whole posting thing. I used to use blogging as a way to jumpstart my writing when I was out of ideas, and even though I have access to Typepad at work, it makes me a little afraid to try and use it. I'm a contractor, so they can steal the job back whenever they want. Boooo.

Oh and TS Fay hit and we're fine. A little minor flooding in the courtyard at times, but nothing we haven't seen in a bad rainstorm before.

Our wedding photo blog from Karen at The Wedding Couple came in, and I can't stop looking at them. I'm usually not that vain, but I can't believe its us and our day was that beautiful. So many fun memories. You can see them if you click the link to her blog here. I'm going to post a few below.

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This is me showing my grandma the hankerchief that was my great-grandma's. Starting a tradition 🙂

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Lyanna got some really cute cups to do a mini-toast before the wedding.

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Pete waiting to see me before the wedding. We did a "first look" so we would have more time for formal shots later.

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My dad giving me away. I love this picture.

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We took some portraits during the cocktail hour, and I'm really glad that we did. They turned out great.

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I call this our "fake" picture, because I love that it looks super posed, but it's definitely not! We're all really that happy!! 🙂